Marriage is most debated issue of human society.
If the marriage is lasting since thousands of years in all the societies of all the parts of the world,then it must be having some very strength within.
MYTHS TO CORRUPT ONE MARRIAGE-
1.LOVE can’t last longer.It fades up with growing age.
infact, in young age,that is lust in beginning,what we call love.
It becomes love when attraction fades up & understanding grows.
2.WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR HAPPINESS OF SPOUSE–
We are in a relationship to support each other,NOT to serve.If one is dominating other,then it can’t work longer. FAIRNESS is must in relationship.
let them demand and value ur support & time,otherwise everything will be taken for granted.
3.SEX DEPENDS ON BODY ONLY
SEX is more related to state of mind.
FORMAT will change,size & fitness will change.BUT joy may remain increasing with growing age.
If you want to have something, then you will somehow find the way.
4.REAL LOVER CAN’T LiVE WITHOUT ONE ANOTHER
SPACE IS ESSENTIAL
DEEPEN RELATIONS WITH OWN FAMILY & IN LAWS FAMILY.
When space was given to divorce prone couple means they spent few months without each other and especially without noise of own family,they could better understand each other.
5 WE SHOULD ACT SUPERMAN/WOMAN
Just be friends. It is obivious to fake in the beginning due to insecurity of an immature relationship.BUT be easy day by day.
BOL BACHCHAN karke ulaz jate hai sab.ACCEPT EASILY “YA, I M very ordinary”
6.WE CAN UNDERSTAND OUR MAN/WOMAN TOTALLY
MAN OR WOMAN feel basically very different.
So leave very complicated questions unattempted for the time being and
all answers will come ur way automatically.
7.DISCUSSION IS THE DIALOGUE–
DISCUSSION is related to right/wrong conclusions.
DIALOGUE OR TALK is about ur feeling. Whatever outer situations may be there,but keep talking about ur day to day feelings.
“what is going within you?” It feels like really being together.
8.NOW WE ARE PARENTS ONLY
If you are occupied with responsibilities only ,then you will not remain happy.
and if u r not happy,then you wil not give the greatest possible gift to your children “happiness”.
9.FRIENDS & FAMILY DISTURB ONE MARRIAGE–
If something doesn’t work ,all are used to blame some outer agency to get instant relief.Friends & family don’t disturb,but you see loopholes of your relationship in their presence.
JUST CHILL,YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE BEST ON THIS EARTH.
I personally felt in my marriage,due to family circumstances both of us learnt so many new things, which made us more lovable.
10. MY SISTERS MARRIAGE IS 24*7 ROCKING
All couple faces dull moments.LIFE can’t be rocking 24*7.
IF U see pick hours of some couple and assume that it remains the same 24*7.Then you will go wrong.
Don’t always go for branded fun i.e movies,hill station,party,mall ,shopping etc.
Choose the fun which is affordable frequently say daily in terms of time & money.Otherwise you are limiting your fun to occasion only.
So enjoy a happy marriage forever.
PANKAJ JAIN,THE MONEYGURU